Nerd is my Gender

chronikerdelta: alright assload of music on my phone

andytehnerd: a metric assload?

chronikerdelta: yeah, which is equivalent to an imperial fuckton

dfiferentperson said: Hey so I just read you post about how it went with you parents when you first told them. I am female bodied and I identify as genderqueer. I lean masculine but I have my fem days and my nuetral days. I came out to my parents back in March and they won't change pronouns and they use daughter a lot or refer to me as the older sister... Any suggestions would be helpful. She won't listen to me.

Honestly, mine won’t either.  I just avoid them now, unless I have the extra energy to deal with the additional emotional exertion.  I realize not everybody can do that, though.  If you’re on speaking terms, you could ask why she keeps doing that.  Sometimes people need to hear themselves say things out loud to really hear the full impact of what they’ve been keeping bottled up in their heads.  And then you could ask her how she thinks you feel when she makes her own feelings more important than yours.  Maybe she’s not willing to change, in which case at least it will be out in the open, so you don’t have to keep looking for that special thing if only you could just say to get her to understand, because you’ll know that special thing doesn’t exist.  It’ll be good for closure and moving on in life.  And maybe she is willing to change, in which case things will have gotten better between you two, and she gets to have a new parental role as “ally”.

enuvrack:

I never had bed head this good looking before. I almost don’t want to fix it. #iwokeuplikethis

Damn.

enuvrack:

I never had bed head this good looking before. I almost don’t want to fix it. #iwokeuplikethis

Damn.

de-vivre-geste said: I read your post (I think you posted it like 3 years ago) about how sex is a social construction. Can I debate a bit of this with you? See if I can change your mind or if you can give me something that I haven't thought about to change mine? I don't necessarily disagree with you on the intersex cases but on the non-intersex cases, I think it is completely biological which is what I would try to argue.

No, I don’t have the time for this, but I’m glad my resources have been useful to you, and there are plenty more resources online you can find by searching for “sex is a social construct”.

Woke up with some serious bed-head.  Decided I should rock it like this all day.

Woke up with some serious bed-head.  Decided I should rock it like this all day.

“Now from a transsexual perspective, such claims that we reinforce or uphold the gender system seem rather odd. For one thing, I didn’t transition in order to better fit into the gender system - as a bisexual femme-tomboy transsexual woman, I am still regularly viewed as gender-non-conforming. For me, transitioning wasn’t about conforming to society, but about self-actualization, about becoming the person I know myself to be. In fact, I would argue that changing one’s sex is generally viewed by most people to be the most extreme act of gender non-conformity that one could possibly engage in. When I had come out as transsexual to straight mainstream folks, I have never once had someone say, “Thank you Julia for reinforcing our gender binary! You’re such an outstanding gendered citizen, thank you for being you!” In fact, quite the opposite happens: People often become bothered, or confused, or disturbed. So the notion that my gender somehow reinforces the gender system does not have any bearing on my everyday life.”
— Julia Serano, “Excluded” page 121

If I know I’m going to be eating at a restaurant later, I’ll pick out what I want to eat from their online menu, so I don’t have to make a decision on the spot. #ADHDcopingmechanism

Anonymous said: genderqueer people have always had a place in lesbianism, i'm sorry what? since when?

theheathermcnamara:

Since butch. Since “bois.” Since studs. Since all kinds of things. Lesbianism was not invented in the year 2000.

Yes, unless you’re bi, in which case you might as well be bigfoot for all you’re recognized to actually exist within lesbian “community”.

I am going to be this for Halloween.  No seriously, I just set the calendar reminder.  None of my friends better steal this one, I called it!

(via Shia LaBag-Head on the Red Carpet - Cheezburger)

I am going to be this for Halloween. No seriously, I just set the calendar reminder. None of my friends better steal this one, I called it!

(via Shia LaBag-Head on the Red Carpet - Cheezburger)

c-sixmith:

An example of fluidity in gender.

Massive crush.

“If gender equality is hurting your sex life, there’s a good chance you’re a rapist.”
— Vincent Assington on Genderqueer Atheists (via enuvrack)
“The only way that trans folks are going to be safe in prisons is for incarceration of people to end. The only way that trans folks are going to be safe in prisons is for us to fight against these laws that criminalize things like drugs, sex work, poverty. People of color and trans folks are finding clear pathways to prison because of laws like that and that’s where we need to put our focus here.”
— Trans Youth Support Network Executive Director Katie Burgess
CeCe McDonald on her time in prison: “I felt like they wanted me to hate myself as a trans woman” - Salon.com

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caterpillarsend:

Let’s just be real here. Cindi Mayweather is my favorite superhero right now.

Is actually best superhero.