Nerd is my Gender

Aww, they’re so cute!  And they’re making it better.  Awesomeness.

Day 5 - Thoughts regarding inner turmoil about your sexuality; Did you have any? Did it escalate to self-injury or suicidal thoughts?

Inner turmoil is the result of either not being true to oneself, or of harming others/being harmed by others.  I did have suicidal thoughts.  Now I don’t, because I’m being my true self, instead of trying to fit into this misshapen box.  Sometimes things people say will bother me a bit, but since I’m surrounded by love and support, things never become too much for me to bear.  And that’s really the key here to living a healthy life: social support.  This is why the It Gets Better campaign is so important.  It won’t get better unless we make it better, all of us together.

This story gave me a happy.


As a high school teacher at Friends Seminary in New York, John Byrne has taught hundreds of students. Recently, he spoke with a former student, Samantha Liebman, about the years before he became the teacher he is today. For one thing, his classrooms were very regimented.

"I would make the kids line up before they came into class," he says, "and then they would stand by their desks and I would say, ‘You may sit down when I sit down.’ They said, ‘Good morning, Mr. Byrne.’

"I was very strict, because I was afraid the kids would discover I was gay," he says.

Byrne, 56, taught English, a subject that proved to be minefield for a teacher who was trying desperately to keep a secret from his students. As he recalls, “some gay scene or character would come up, and I would start to blush.”

He was always frightened, Byrne says. But then, in 1991, “I decided to march in the St. Patrick’s Day parade,” he says. “Because they refused to let the gays march, and I thought, ‘I’ve got to take a stand.’ I just wanted to be myself. So I went and marched with them.”

Back in class the day after the parade, Byrne’s 10th-grade students wanted to know how he had spent the day. Teasing their teacher, they accused him of going out and getting drunk.

"I said, ‘I was not!’" he recalls. He told them, "I was marching in the parade."

That led to the next question: Who had Mr. Byrne marched with?

"And I said, ‘With the Irish Gay and Lesbian Organization.’ And they said, ‘Well, why were you marching with them?’ and I said, ‘Because I’m gay!’


And they were so kind. They saw that I was nervous, and they helped me along," he says.

That day changed Byrne’s life, and his career. He says it made him a better teacher.

"You know, it had hurt me to live in the shadows," he says. "And then when I came out, it freed me to teach. It made me better at helping kids who had their own particular secrets."

And the students repaid him for his trust, as well.

"Two years later, that class that I came out to, they asked me to be their graduation speaker," Byrne says. "And I talked to the parents about how proud they should be of their children, for having taught me and helped me through a really difficult time in my life. It was a wonderful turning point."

(Source: NPR)

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“I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens, what do I have to do so people will listen to me?”

The late 14-year-old Jamey Rodemeyer, a victim of relentless anti-gay bullying, tagged “last rant”.  How many more have to die before people will realize it doesn’t get better until we make it better?

Lady Gaga "It's hard to feel love when cruelty takes someone's life."

“Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot [trigger warning], but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned. Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!).”

Guess who?

Tell me, anyone, has he ever apologized and taken back what he said? Anyone? Bueller…?

I’m not going to kill myself, I hope.


I’ve decided not to kill myself. A lovely friend of mine pointed out that if I killed myself, it might damage the morale of trans-people or hurt them. While I’d love to upset and hurt cis-people as much as possible, I will never ever hurt a trans* person unless they’re being bigoted about something else, and thus I will stay alive. I’m not staying alive because I like being alive though, just to not hurt other transpepole. I hate being alive to be honest.

Maybe it’s selfish that I like you better alive, and I’m not ready to give up another member of the trans* population to the sick twisted satisfaction of people who believe we’re better off dead. But you know what, I think I’m okay with being a horribly selfish person in this case, if it means that we who are the beautiful kind get even a single extra person shining our brilliance in this world for just one more day.

(Source: littlemisslucifer)