Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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One fewer reason to need a vagina!
Heading: The more technology humanity creates, the weirder you’ll be in old age.
Caption: In my day, you inseminated a human female, and the baby developed inside her body.
Image: Old man talking to horrified group of children.
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i saw your post on pansexualpride and i wanted to give you props :)
i'm like you, where i rarely fantasize about people just walking around, and for this i thought i was the crazy one. although i am attracted to the same sex, i still find certain features and characteristics cute or beautiful or just interesting in the opposite sex. for this, my girlfriend thinks i'm crazy, since she's a gold star lesbian and my first girlfriend. i identify as a lesbian (and just came out to my lesbian mom a couple weeks ago woooo!), but personality is personality, and if that's what attracts me, then so be it.Asked by shanikins
Cool! Thanks for sharing. :)
Reference post: http://pansexualpride.tumblr.com/post/3167008239
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The paradigm of “women trade sex to men for affection / favors / security / etc.” is an extremely dangerous one. Because it posits that women never really want sex, it makes the bright line of “no, this time I really don’t want it” fuzzy, as if this were merely a breakdown in the bargaining process. It makes women seem unreasonable or even greedy for refusing sex when they’ve been properly “compensated” (see also: PUA culture) and makes men feel that sex with a woman who doesn’t want sex isn’t fundamentally abnormal. And this is why being extremely public about being an extremely horny woman is fighting rape.
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Why, Dan Savage, why?
The asker starts out bad enough with his value-lopsided scale that has asexuals at the bottom and “normal” sexuals at the top. You could have eliminated such sexual-centric language by simply contrasting sexuals with asexuals with demisexuals all on the same spectrum of acceptability. But you didn’t. And then you imply that it’s less important for this asker to be concerned about his own happiness and that of any potential partners, and more important that he let the mere possibility of disapproval from sexuals dictate his actions.
You know what that’s called, Dan? That’s called reinforcing the kyriarchy. The language of oppression strong with this one.
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It’s totally true: healthy relationships are based 100% on sexual gratification. The less sex you have, the less successful your relationship is AND HEAVEN FORBID the sex be sub-par. The less sex you have the less human you are. Do asexuals even have souls?
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I don’t want to inflict myself upon anyone here but this entry fills me with a ridiculous sense of self confidence. My single, sexless life is fucking amazing and some day I might share it with someone awesome and, so help me Savage, we will go forth and multiply that ace-tastic amazing into quantities yet unknown to human kind. (possibly by using pi)
I love with my heart. My heart is not in my pants.
-stay awesome
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This is applicable to everyone: you want to grow out your bush and never shave for the rest of your life? That’s okay. You want to wax or sugar it all off so you’re as smooth as silk down there? That’s okay. You want to trim it, leave a strip, round it out, keep it low, thin it out, braid it, shave just your balls, shave just your pussy lips, keep it business in the front and party in the back? That’s okay too. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not feminine enough, or sexy enough if you choose to keep your bush. And don’t let anyone tell you you’re not radical enough, or queer enough if you choose to make it bare.Katie West (via sexisnottheenemy)
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HPV vaccination. PAP smears. Cancer screenings. Condoms, STI testing, education, UTI treatment, the first stop to getting that niggling pain in your cervix diagnosed, a way to be safe with your partner after your parents threw you out of the house.
Counselors. Rape prevention and recovery. Prenatal care, infant checkups. Referrals to high-risk gynecologists, birthing centers, doulas.
Activism. Protests. Petitions, phone banks, donation drives.
Planned Parenthood saved me, and they have saved others like me.
To say that they just want to prevent abortions is to stick their head in the sand and yell “LALALALALALALA I DON’T HEAR YOU” over the sound of millions of patients standing up and saying “NO.”
Doing something against our wills, despite us saying “no.” Doesn’t that sounds familiar?
Kaie’s response to hearing that the House voted to defund Planned Parenthood. Help us defend our rights: http://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/ -
Another page from “The Riot’s Great Big Patriarchy-Smashing Activity Book!” NOW WITH MORE CORRECT SPELLING!
Free to take.
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Heterosexual Questionnaire, featuring Greta Christina!
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SGB. Are you a feminist?
C&P. No, we’re for equality.
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CONSENT IS SEXY, FOLKS
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If you don’t care about my health, hands off my body!
And seriously, this applies to everyone, not just people who have vaginas (misrepresented by the video as automatically equaling ”women”).
Transcript:
Hello, I am a woman. I am a woman. I’m a woman. A female of the species. You can tell because of the whole vagina having thing.
Often American women depend on Planned Parenthood for medical care. It’s like doctors and stuff. Otherwise many women can’t afford basic care. Period.
It’s come to my attention–as a woman–that there are people who would like to stop funding for Planned Parenthood.
Ok. Ok. People can believe what they want. But if you’re a man who doesn’t care about women’s sexual health. Then that is duly f*cking noted. And there’s nothing less hot than a man who doesn’t care about vaginas. My vagina, for your intents and purposes, is off the table. Period.
I’m not saying that people who oppose basic funding for women’s health care can go f*ck themselves. But, as far as I’m concerned, they won’t have any other options.
Vagina havers: Does your sexual partner support vaginas? If not, tell him how he can go get f*cked. Alone.
(Source: feministing.com)
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Sex is a social construct.
“Don’t you mean gender is a social construct?”
No, no I don’t.
Although the sex/gender divide is certainly useful in certain contexts, there are a few huge problems with it.
It’s a form of Cartesian duality that divides the mind as somehow separate from the body. Meaning, it treats the two as completely separate and unrelated. Particularly with transsexual people, this is a dangerous idea. It easily leads to thinking that gender dysphoria is something merely in one’s head. The reality of it is, hormone therapy treats the body, and thus treating the body relieves the mind. If the mind and body were truly separate, treating a person who is transsexual with hormone therapy would have no effect on their psychological and emotional well-being.
It’s also problematic because it typically describes gender as merely a cultural thing (denying that there are people strongly identify as one or more genders) and sex as merely a biological thing, leaving gender as the only thing “worthy” of analysis. The truth is, sex is just as socially constructed as gender ideals/gender roles are. The two constantly influence one another; sex and gender ideals coexist simultaneously and cannot be so easily separated. How we view sex has changed dramatically over the years.
The problem with leaving sex unchallenged is obvious. When we define it as XX means female, XY means male, we leave out people who are XXY, etc. It also erases the existence of XX intersex and XY intersex people. If we then define it as genitalia, we run into a similar problem. We will find women with penis-sized clitorises (and some with no vagina), men with micropenises (some with vaginas), and people whose phallus is undifferentiated in other ways (such as men with more severe forms of hypospadias where the urethra is not on the phallus at all)(thus, leading to the question, what exactly differentiates between a clitoris and a penis? The “sex” of the person who has it?).
There are many ways in which a person can vary during sexual development, including, but not limited to, sex chromosomes, hormones, internal morphology, external morphology, genitalia, and reproductive organs/gonads. Which brings us to the question: how many of these must differ for a person to be intersex? In how many people do these all match perfectly? Which of these matters the most in assigning a person a sex? There is no singular answer, and the definition of the situation is a product of culture and history.
Defining it in different ways merely moves the goal post, and we can never come up with a satisfying answer until we again consider gender, this time the gender identity of the person. Merely going by what they (people who are intersex) were assigned at birth leads us to the same problem that many transgender people have, that is, the institutional denial of self-identity.
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WAR IS PEACE, FREEDOM IS SLAVERY, and IGNORANCE IS STRENGTH.
-George Orwell, 1984Hmm. Nice point.
I guess my bikini top at the beach yesterday was a sign of oppression! I mean, men can legally show their nipples but not women. They should change this law. And then do you know what would happen? A lot of women would be uncomfortable with it because modesty, sensitive nipples, not what they’re used to, etc. Clearly these women are BRAINWASHED! Yes, we should free them from their tit-manacles and make the oppressive tops illegal!
Because policing women’s clothing choices is TOTALLY a win for women’s rights, amirite?!
I’m too fucking pissed at shit like this to even talk about it anymore.
You know what’s brilliant? That the same people who want to remove the right of women to wear a hijab… they’re the people who also say things like “she was raped because she was dressed too sexy”. You can’t have it both ways people! You can’t call women “sluts” for uncovering skin and then call them “oppressed” for covering.
How’s this for a radical idea: back the fuck off of women’s bodies. Say nothing to them whatsoever. That’s right: NOTHING. Cuz everything that’s been done so far to “help” has caused nothing but harm.
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Is It Natural for Older Guys to Lust After Young Women?
A true story about the way younger women really see “older men” (and if you’re attracted to 18- to 24-year-olds, you count as “older” if you’re on the high side of 30).
A few years ago, my friend Sean went through a rough divorce. Newly single and almost 40, he went back on the dating scene for the first time in over a decade. But the woman who caught his eye wasn’t someone he met online. She was his favorite barista at his local Starbucks. She was 19.
Every afternoon for weeks, Sean would order his latté and chat up the gal behind the counter. He was slowly working up his courage to ask for her number—until she made the first move one day when he was the only customer in line.
“Uh, can I ask you something?” Her embarrassed grin seemed full of promise.
“Sure,” Sean said, his heart starting to race.
“Are you single?”
Wow, Sean thought to himself, this is easier than I thought. “Sure am!”
“Well, I know this is weird,” the barista said, “but you seem really great and I really want to introduce you to my mother. She’s really awesome, and I think you two would have a lot in common.”
Sean was crestfallen. He took the mother’s number, but never called. And he never went back to that Starbucks. “How can I date a woman my age when I’m already so attracted to her daughter?”
Too many of us are like Sean, flattering ourselves that we’re still desirable to women young enough to be our daughters.
It is a social illness that men are taught to expect that younger women will overlook how old and grey they’ve become, when those same men are not expected to overlook the signs of aging in women their own age.
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Comma Sutra
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Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
