Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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I’m sorry, bisexual activists, but you’re doing it all wrong. Instead of berating me for my alleged bi-phobia—and if I’m the enemy, you’re in real trouble—berate your closeted compatriots. If they all came out tomorrow, you could put an end to bi-phobia, take over the LGBT movement, and kick my ass out of it.
OH PLEASE LET’S DO THIS ERRBODY.
We don’t have to all come out at take over the movement, but can we please please please team up to kick his ass out?
(via sexartandpolitics)
YES. I SECOND THIS.
(via jaded16india)
Dan Savage=Major Douche.
(via nimself)
You know who the real enemy is? Not the closeted bi/pansexual/queers. The real enemy is anyone who doesn’t support and even opposes people who can love or be attracted to more than one gender. The real enemy is someone who would try to get us to turn on ourselves instead of working to push back against the hate. Well you won’t see any of that here, because I support all my queer siblings, even the ones in the closet where nobody can see.
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![Look, it’s the new “some of my best friends are gay”!
fyeahpdp:
[Picture: Background: 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground: White woman wearing a long sleeved blouse and silver bracelet with long blonde hair. Her arms are crossed over her chest and she has a smug expression.Top text: “ [I HAVE A BI BOYFRIEND SO NOW I REALLY KNOW IT DOESN’T BOTHER ME!] ” Bottom text: “ [I’M SO PROUD OF MYSELF FOR BEING A TRUE ALLY! I MEAN, ISN’T THIS GREAT?] ”]
There was a commenter on Jezebel a while back who basically wanted people to pat her on the back for being able to date a bi guy. I get it that there are a lot of people who won’t date bisexuals simply because they are bisexual, but that shouldn’t be the case. And the people who aren’t like that shouldn’t be asking for cookies for actions that, ideally, we should expect of everyone. Plus, it was just generally gross that she was treating her boyfriend like a litmus test of her degree of allyship.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lnn9egWygH1qgy0fio1_250.jpg)
Look, it’s the new “some of my best friends are gay”!
[Picture: Background: 6 piece pie style color split with pink and blue alternating. Foreground: White woman wearing a long sleeved blouse and silver bracelet with long blonde hair. Her arms are crossed over her chest and she has a smug expression.
Top text: “ [I HAVE A BI BOYFRIEND SO NOW I REALLY KNOW IT DOESN’T BOTHER ME!] ” Bottom text: “ [I’M SO PROUD OF MYSELF FOR BEING A TRUE ALLY! I MEAN, ISN’T THIS GREAT?] ”]There was a commenter on Jezebel a while back who basically wanted people to pat her on the back for being able to date a bi guy. I get it that there are a lot of people who won’t date bisexuals simply because they are bisexual, but that shouldn’t be the case. And the people who aren’t like that shouldn’t be asking for cookies for actions that, ideally, we should expect of everyone. Plus, it was just generally gross that she was treating her boyfriend like a litmus test of her degree of allyship.
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From the Department of No Doy
Now some study has basically proven bisexual men exist, for everyone for whom “I am a bisexual man” was inexplicably not good enough.
I can’t wait till science “proves” that genderqueer people exist too.
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Why Gay Parents May Be Better
tl;dr - The secret is that parents who choose to raise children are better equipped than those who became parents without planning. And I agree, and I support the rights of all parents.
But do we really need to erase bi/pansexual people like this? Do we need to ignore people who made the same healthy choices with a different gender partner (even straight ones)?
Besides, the research doesn’t even say that gay parents are better. They “found no differences between children raised in homes with two heterosexual parents and children raised with lesbian parents.” And two men? The reserchers didn’t have data at all, only a suspicion. No, seriously.
You might be thinking “so what? People have been discriminating against same-sex parents for decades, isn’t this trivial when compared to our need to push for real rights?” Not if it leaves bi and pansexual parents behind. Not if it sets up a false struggle of “gays vs straights” as to who can most win at parenting.
If we want to take the science and the social issues seriously, we need to stand up and say “hey, gay parents are not better than straight ones. They’re equal. And that’s why we demand equality.”
P.S. - Also trans erasure, in that “only kids of straight couples are a surprise” way. Can’t believe I left that out at first, being genderqueer and all. *facepalm*
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Bi-phobia, The Cotton Ceiling, and Gold Stars (by Coquipirate)
tl;dw: There are plenty of reasons not to be attracted to someone, but them merely not validating your sexual orientation is a pathetic reason indeed.
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NSFW
Queer (English Version)
Alright friends, I got the English version online! I just wanted the first day’s worth of hits to go straight to Projet 17 mai, since they’re the ones who asked me to contribute, y’know? /:)DISCLAIMER: Since this comic is addressing sexual identity, I only included sexualities under the Queer umbrella— although, obviously, queer also encompasses many gender identities as well.
As I said in my post debuting the French version,
Projet 17 mai contacted me several months ago about creating a comic on the theme of homophobia, and though it is definitely something I’ve experienced (being denied service in shops, having people throw garbage, being followed by howling gangs of men, etc. just for holding my girlfriend’s hand), I actually have been more hurt and upset by the biphobia I’ve experienced from the LGBT “community” for falling in love with and marrying a cisgender man. Even bisexuals have been needlessly mean because I feel the term “queer” is a better fit for me instead of “bi” (it’s totally cool if “bisexual” is the term that works for you!! It’s just not the one for me).
Basically, the Identity Police have been very hurtful to me (and others who are attracted to multiple genders), so that’s what I did my comic on.I love this comic so much, oh god. “Queer” is my favorite for exactly all of these reasons.
Very much nsfw, but still fantastic.
I’ve been in pretty much each of these situations depicted here. Unfortunately, my experience of appreciating women’s bodies in the company of a male partner hasn’t been all that great. My ex-husband basically saw it as a “get out of jail free card” for objectifying women in highly unethical ways out loud whenever he felt like it. He also used me as “bait” to try to get women into our relationship to fulfill his 3-way fantasies. In other words, my queerness became a tool of the patriarchy in his hands. It wasn’t until I had been free from it long enough to find myself again that I realized how dehumanizing that process had been.
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Question for everyone: “why label yourself?”
Anonymous asked you:I don’t understand what gender adds to anyone’s identities. It’s an arbitrary title. The only thing you have to do to be an X is to identify as X. So what’s the point? Every quality associated with every gender is arbitrary, so why label yourself? It doesn’t add anything to your identity? —-a confused human.This is the sort of ask that benefits from a multitude of comments, not just my own. So…responses please!I label myself for the same reason that I organize my clothes in my dresser: it just makes things easier. I see labels as descriptive not prescriptive, so I don’t worry about “violating” my labels by trying something new, but I do use my labels to help people get a general idea of what I most probably will be like.
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Bisexuals and straight privilege
As someone who used to see myself as cis bisexual (before I was comfortable with accepting my trans* status), I can definitely relate to #1 and #2 in this post. I gained a lot of privilege when I was with a man that I lost when I was with a woman.
Having been on both sides of the fence, and even on top of it from time to time, I can say that #3 is really missing the point of what “privilege” means. I wish privilege were a feeling! Unfortunately, privilege is an systematic advantage gained by having a status ascribed to oneself.
If people think I’m cis, and they see me with my partner, they will treat us like we’re straight. It will not feel comfortable, and in fact will feel very degendering, but that doesn’t change the fact that even wrongly-ascribed privilege is still privilege.
Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
