I identify as pansexual, but for me, that overlaps a lot with bisexuality. I am not against being called bi, straight, or gay from time to time, as long as it’s understood that those are aspects of a larger sexuality, not my core identity. So with that in mind, I thought I’d take a list of ways bisexuals are marginalized, and turn it around into a celebration of bisexual people.
When someone asks “homosexual or heterosexual?” the proper response is “yes, please!”
Young people need support and understanding , end of story.
We can be honest about our sexuality, even when appearances seem otherwise.
While possible, this is but one of many ways HIV can be transmitted from person to person. To scapegoat a particular group of people is to divert attention away from other necessary precautions. http://health.msn.com/health-topics/aids-hiv/how-hiv-spreads-myths-and-facts
I know I have: “all of the above”. :D And even if someone hasn’t made up hir mind, why force the issue? Surely a decision reached slowly and with careful consideration is far better than one reached with great haste to avoid social stigma.
We have our own sexual fantasies and curiosities we’d like to explore. This means some of us are too busy for yours. ;)
Why pretend I’m something I’m not? It’s so much fun being me!
Many of us are willing and able to take a stand when it counts. We can make a strong asset to your team.
We are full of happy surprises like that, once you get to know us.
When I walk into my local LGBT centers with my boyfriend, I hope to be a positive reminder that bisexual people are whole people with whole needs. For example, don’t assume that the risk of pregnancy isn’t an issue for the members with uteri, even ones dating each other.
I think that anyone who is able to find the best possible situation for hirself should be encouraged to do so, not be subjected to judgement or resentment. For many bisexual people, this means they date one single person and stick together for the long term. For others, this means having a wide variety of experiences within a short period of time. What’s important is that we stay safe and healthy, and learn to respect others and ourselves.
The view from the fence is lovely - feel free to join me!
Ha! I know a few bisexual peeps who would love to introduce you to their committed same-sex partner.
One of the terrific things about bisexual people is that we’re all different in our unique ways. There’s no such thing as a “typical bisexual”.
We’re able to love and care for someone just the same as anyone else to the degree that we wouldn’t even think about choosing a different situation, because the current one is so rewarding. If anything, this gives those of us who have been in socially-approved relationships and socially-disapproved ones both, the ability to experience first-hand the injustice of the different responses by society. This empathy helps us be advocates for equality just as well as anyone else can be.
Hey, being mistaken for one of us is a compliment! You should be proud of sticking up for what is right.
I know you want us, you can’t resist our charms. ;)
We’re such interesting people. Don’t hesitate to ask about our lives, even the parts which are less familiar to yourself.
Being told I’m confused is confusing to me, and thus begins the recursive loop of confusion.
We’re as trustworthy as any other group of people. Which isn’t saying much. Have you seen the rates of cheating among heterosexuals? Yikes!
I’m too honest for that, which is a good thing.
Equality won on the backs of another group is not worth fighting for. We’re here for you; be here for us too.
Caring about other people and standing up for what is right is an attractive in anyone. Be proud of your bi-support!
I’m sorry, bisexual activists, but you’re doing it all wrong. Instead of berating me for my alleged bi-phobia—and if I’m the enemy, you’re in real trouble—berate your closeted compatriots. If they all came out tomorrow, you could put an end to bi-phobia, take over the LGBT movement, and kick my ass out of it.
OH PLEASE LET’S DO THIS ERRBODY.
We don’t have to all come out at take over the movement, but can we please please please team up to kick his ass out?
YES. I SECOND THIS.
Dan Savage=Major Douche.
You know who the real enemy is? Not the closeted bi/pansexual/queers. The real enemy is anyone who doesn’t support and even opposes people who can love or be attracted to more than one gender. The real enemy is someone who would try to get us to turn on ourselves instead of working to push back against the hate. Well you won’t see any of that here, because I support all my queer siblings, even the ones in the closet where nobody can see.
Suffice it to say, if simply recognizing differences between female and male bodies is tantamount to essentialism and binarism, then that means that *all* heterosexual and homosexual people are heterosexist and binarist, because they are sexually attracted to one but not the other. It also means that *all* transsexuals who physically transition are essentialist and binarist, on the basis that we choose to be one sex rather than the other. Once again, calling out a bisexual person’s experience of sex differences as “essentialist” and “binarist,” while playing no heed to gay, lesbian, and trans people’s experiences of sex differences, can only be viewed as monosexist.
Julia Serano’s “Excluded” page 89