Nerd is my Gender

I see your hate, and I raise you a corrected version that my friend created:

I see your hate, and I raise you a corrected version that my friend created:

sorry, it's loads of text and i'm short on time

(via thepaisleywind)

Things I’m Expected To Do for Cis People in Return for Their Not Hating Me: An Angry List

radtransfem:

After seeing bidyke’s remix of sanctimonioussilentagony’s list, I thought I’d sketch out the beginnings of one for transsexual folk. Improvements welcome:

  • Answer any and all questions about my body and my medical treatment no matter how invasive
  • Answer questions about my partner’s sexuality
  • Listen to their stories about other trans* people they know
  • Listen to them talk and give them my opinions on trans* celebrities
  • Celebrate with them all fictional depictions of trans* folk, no matter how misrepresentative or outright transphobic
  • Congratulate them on their correct use of names and pronouns
  • Obey when they refer to me incorrectly and tell me that I “must forgive them”
  • Smile sadly and thank them when they tell me how brave I am
  • Use the accessible toilet and be grateful
  • Stay silent if they misidentify me as gay and cis
  • Sympathise with their excuses for their and others’ transphobia
  • Approve their use of the word ‘tranny’
  • Act ‘gendered’ enough but not too ‘gendered’
    • note: these prohibitions overlap with no middle ground
  • Never, ever, express or articulate any kind of sexuality
    • this one may be trans*-woman-specific?
  • Stay quiet when cis-specific issues are being discussed
  • Never raise trans*-specific issues
  • Never get angry or upset about cissexism and transphobia
  • Never call out cis people on cissexism and transphobia
  • Not mention specific legal protections for transsexual people to my employers
  • Only be transsexual without having any other identities
  • Silently excuse myself from activities and events which structurally exclude me
  • Do so without raising any attention or being noticed by anybody
  • Not hang out with too many other trans* people or seek trans*-only space
  • Never repost Asher’s “Die Cis Scum”
  • If I die, die quietly, and never blame them.

And now the Nerd, for hir own personal amusement, presents The List of Things I Secretly Wish I Could Get Away With Doing:

  • Answer any and all questions about my body and my medical treatment with “oh, you paying?”
  • Answer questions about my partner’s sexuality with “but we are looking to experiment with a 3rd… interested?”
  • Say that if I meet their trans* friend, we must battle to the death because like the Sith, there can only be one
  • Admit I don’t know shit about trans* celebrities and really couldn’t care less to try to learn
  • Laugh in their faces and ask them if they also learned everything they know about physics from the movies
  • Never have to think about pronouns again
  • Know how to remind others to think about pronouns without sounding like a schoolmarm
  • Respond to compliments of bravery with “you should have seen the other guy!”
  • Hog the accessible toilet like a boss
  • Come out to the 100th stranger as though it were the first time
  • Figure out a nice way to say “wow, that shit’s wicked bigoted”
  • Strangle those who utter the words “she-male”
  • Not have my gender expression be analyzed for “proof” of my identity
    • note: cis people’s actions are generally excused by friends and associates as not invalidating to their genders
  • Flirt with all the people
    • and not worry about if I should know better than to think anyone would date someone like me
  • Roll my eyes and sigh loudly whenever someone raises concern about a cis-specific issue
  • Interject “and genderqueers” whenever someone says “men and women”
  • Be the trans* hulk smashing cis-supremacy (and not even the pants would survive transformation)
  • Set up a cis jar and collect change from people who say binarist things
  • Get to walk into my office in a suit and tie like a boss
  • Be a queer atheist white trans* parent with ADHD all at the same time
  • Bust in and make space for other people of non-binary genders
  • And be thanked for it too
  • Get a rental on Trans Ally where all the cool peeps dwell (in my imagination)
  • LOL forever at Asher’s “Die Cis Scum”
  • If I must take one for the team, go out in a blaze of glory

(Source: freethoughtblogs.com)

mylittlebaneling:

circuitfry:

trendieman:

Lyra, what the actual fuck are you doing?

She is a man trapped in a horse’s body you insensitive jerk

IF HE IS A MAN IN A HORSES BODY WHY ARE YOU SAYING SHE YOU CISSEXIST MONSTER. 

Grues… 

mylittlebaneling:

circuitfry:

trendieman:

Lyra, what the actual fuck are you doing?

She is a man trapped in a horse’s body you insensitive jerk

IF HE IS A MAN IN A HORSES BODY WHY ARE YOU SAYING SHE YOU CISSEXIST MONSTER.
 

Grues… 

kitten frightened and backing away

(Source: lefunyon, via littlemisslucifer)

That awkward moment

comradewodka:

when transfolk whom you have nothing but admiration and respect for start to reblog posts containing “die cis scum” with no commentary to the contrary. And you can’t help but sit there wondering if they agree with that, or are merely letting it slide unchallenged due to the transness they share in common.

For the record… I sympathize with the immeasurable levels of fear and frustration that must come with living in a generally cissexist and dangerous world. I don’t blame anyone for experiencing a wide range of feelings, even anger, for these sorts of injustices.

But turning those feelings and experiences into hatred and violence towards the majority, who are A) not going away any time soon and B) not individually responsible for the privileges our oft-flawed society gives them, any more than you personally as a transperson are responsible for the privileges you lack… It’s short-sighted, unhealthy, and simply not something that I personally can condone.

There’s a lot of things I could say— hell, even this— that would probably be dismissed or lambasted by SJWs due to my status as a white ciswoman. But frankly, I don’t think that’s a correct course of action either.

Bad things to say are bad, no matter who you are. Good things to say are good, no matter who you are. Is that not the definition of the equality we all are seeking? That moment in which someone is judged not by who or what they are and instead only upon their attitudes and actions?

So no, I’m not going to stand aside and let certain transfolk say hateful things unchallenged simply because they’re transfolk, any more than I let LGBTQ+ people attack and shun other members of the acronym unchallenged, any more than I’m going sit there and take it as my, yes, privileged family makes homophobic comments during Christmas dinner.

Because in my opinion, if we ever do manage to change things for the better, that change is going to come despite hatred on both sides. Not because of it.

Grues

quiltingqueer asked about Die Cis Scum

So… I have some friends who don’t seem to understand the whole die cis scum thing. and they’re pretty cool people… They just don’t get it. But I’m not quite sure how to explain it to them. I know that a lot of why it matters is power dynamics. The power lies with the cis people in this case. Is there anything else I’m missing? (sorry to bother, this is kind of a complex question and I tried to google and got porn XD) 

~quiltingqueer

Lulz, there are those certain searches that must be done with Safe Search on.

For those who don’t yet know, “die cis scum" is a cry of solidarity amongst trans* people and resistance against cis people. (Cross-reference "the man”.)

Judging by the cis tears being shed all over tumblr, it’s working, and by “working” I mean it’s getting people to talk about trans* people who otherwise would be blithely ignoring us right now.  ”But you’re being so mean!” they say. “Bad tr@nny, go to your room and think about what you’ve done!” Or else what?

Or else you’ll bully us? Call us names? Murder us? Take away our access to surgery or medication? Deny us jobs and housing? Refuse our access to the same public facilities everyone else takes for granted? Deny us our correct legal documents? Misname us, mispronoun us, mislabel us? Scapegoat us and teach your children to fear us?

OH WAIT, YOU ALREADY ARE.

PS. The correct slur for cis scum is “grue”. Cis is not a slur, but grue is.

Bi-phobia, The Cotton Ceiling, and Gold Stars (by Coquipirate)

tl;dw: There are plenty of reasons not to be attracted to someone, but them merely not validating your sexual orientation is a pathetic reason indeed.

1: Is this word sometimes used to denote an identity or demographic of people?
1a: If no, this word is probably safe to use.
1b: If yes, continue to 2.
2: Is this word being used as a slur, insult, or negative modifier?
2a: If no, this word is probably safe to use.
2b: If yes, continue to 3.
3: Find a different word to use.
1: Is this word sometimes used to denote an identity or demographic of people?
1a: If no, this word is probably safe to use.
1b: If yes, continue to 2.
2: Is this word being used as a slur, insult, or negative modifier?
2a: If no, this word is probably safe to use.
2b: If yes, continue to 3.
3: Find a different word to use.
I’m so sorry you are at a point where you need to do this. I too am (and have always been) at a point where outside of certain safe spaces I can’t display my fluidity or use pronouns aside from he/him. It sucks and binarism & cissexism are the worst.
Thanks for the kind words.