Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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This is one pansexual nerd-queer who loves them both!
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we are all beautiful in different ways.
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If by “different” you mean “uniformly conforming to thin-centric beauty standards”, then yes.
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If your response to this statement that “all bodies are good bodies” is to say “but obesity is unhealthy!” STOP. Check yourself. Why do you feel the need to change the subject? What is it about your own biases that you can’t stand when other people are happy with themselves? Why do people need to meet your physical standards in order to be “good”? Do you think their bodies owe you something?
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![Ouch. Some of these sting, and it’s because I’ve said them before. Seeing them in this context highlights how much they suck.
[Image of text sayings, including: “Real women have curves.” ”I like big women (well, maybe not the obese ones) the sexiest. I mean, they do not need plastic and silicon to have nice breasts and hips.” ”More cushion for the pushin’!” ”It’s like one big boob.” ”Try convincing an archtypical ‘easy’ fat girl to let you do it with the lights on, or let you play with her belly, or refer to her as ‘fat’ without sobbing and trying to throw up the nice dinner you bought her.”]
Message from the artist:
So here’s the deal… I’ve found myself in a very uncomfortable position with the kind of art I do. I am a queer feminist, I draw pinups and erotica and… I happen to be a large woman. AS SUCH, I draw a lot of fat girls. Now, I draw all sizes and shapes, but when drawing myself or girls shaped like myself I find a very unpleasant thing beginning to happen; I accumulate a massive amount of fat fetishists as followers. Now, I’m not saying everyone with a fat fetish is the same, but here’s the thing I don’t like; It seems the current trend of the past couple years is that fat women are starting to become the new “IN” thing. Idk what part of that has to do with the fact that our planet has been filling up with more and more plump folks and what part of it has to do with the new hipster ideal of beauty; “nerdy is cool, crappy is awesome, ‘ugly’ is hot”. It’s cool, it’s great, we’re getting more attention now, but why…? Well, it seems it’s mostly about sex. And that’s the thing that some of you will prolly find funny about me saying all this; I LOVE sex. I love DRAWING sexy things. I love LOOKING at sexy things, but when it gets to the point where I feel like no matter what I do, where I go, what I see it’s all this shit about being sexy and how fucking worthless you are if you AREN’T sexy… it starts to really piss me the fuck off! I mean, Is it possible that for just a moment that we could look at women (or people) in general without rating them based on the superficial? Is it possible to be beautiful without being sexually objectified? Is it possible to be worthwhile without being “sexy”? I think so.And then there’s all this shit rolling around that’s supposed to be empowering to “big girls”, but I tend to find it all really fucking disgusting. “Real women this”, “Real women that.” Fuck you. Why the fuck should I care if some fucking stranger finds me attractive or not? Does that define my worth? And what’s with all this anti-skinny shit I hear in “pro-fat” crap? Really, people? Is that any better than hating fat girls? For fuck’s sake!I’m just really fucking fed up with it. Yeah, we all have our things, our kinks, our “types”, but don’t DEVALUE folks that don’t fit into your very NARROW ideals of beauty. And when the fuck did it ever hurt anyone to open up their eyes and really learn to appreciate all forms of beauty anyway, huh? FUCK.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lxxc7gi9wG1qgm6edo1_250.png)
Ouch. Some of these sting, and it’s because I’ve said them before. Seeing them in this context highlights how much they suck.
[Image of text sayings, including: “Real women have curves.” ”I like big women (well, maybe not the obese ones) the sexiest. I mean, they do not need plastic and silicon to have nice breasts and hips.” ”More cushion for the pushin’!” ”It’s like one big boob.” ”Try convincing an archtypical ‘easy’ fat girl to let you do it with the lights on, or let you play with her belly, or refer to her as ‘fat’ without sobbing and trying to throw up the nice dinner you bought her.”]
Message from the artist:
So here’s the deal…
I’ve found myself in a very uncomfortable position with the kind of art I do. I am a queer feminist, I draw pinups and erotica and… I happen to be a large woman. AS SUCH, I draw a lot of fat girls. Now, I draw all sizes and shapes, but when drawing myself or girls shaped like myself I find a very unpleasant thing beginning to happen; I accumulate a massive amount of fat fetishists as followers.
Now, I’m not saying everyone with a fat fetish is the same, but here’s the thing I don’t like; It seems the current trend of the past couple years is that fat women are starting to become the new “IN” thing. Idk what part of that has to do with the fact that our planet has been filling up with more and more plump folks and what part of it has to do with the new hipster ideal of beauty; “nerdy is cool, crappy is awesome, ‘ugly’ is hot”.
It’s cool, it’s great, we’re getting more attention now, but why…? Well, it seems it’s mostly about sex. And that’s the thing that some of you will prolly find funny about me saying all this; I LOVE sex. I love DRAWING sexy things. I love LOOKING at sexy things, but when it gets to the point where I feel like no matter what I do, where I go, what I see it’s all this shit about being sexy and how fucking worthless you are if you AREN’T sexy… it starts to really piss me the fuck off!
I mean, Is it possible that for just a moment that we could look at women (or people) in general without rating them based on the superficial? Is it possible to be beautiful without being sexually objectified? Is it possible to be worthwhile without being “sexy”? I think so.
And then there’s all this shit rolling around that’s supposed to be empowering to “big girls”, but I tend to find it all really fucking disgusting. “Real women this”, “Real women that.” Fuck you. Why the fuck should I care if some fucking stranger finds me attractive or not? Does that define my worth? And what’s with all this anti-skinny shit I hear in “pro-fat” crap? Really, people? Is that any better than hating fat girls? For fuck’s sake!
I’m just really fucking fed up with it. Yeah, we all have our things, our kinks, our “types”, but don’t DEVALUE folks that don’t fit into your very NARROW ideals of beauty. And when the fuck did it ever hurt anyone to open up their eyes and really learn to appreciate all forms of beauty anyway, huh? FUCK. -
“Bashing on skinny girls is just as awful as bashing on big girls.”
First off, anyone who’s fond of making unsolicited comments on people’s appearances, STOP. At any size, nobody’s body owes your eyes any damn thing.
But I will point out that I’ve never heard of anyone losing promotions at work for being too skinny. I’ve never heard of skinny girls being called “easy” because they have “low self-esteem” for being aware that they’re “undatable”. I’ve never heard of a pop star saying “food tastes way better than skinny feels”. I’ve never heard anyone ask “girl, did you gain weight?” as a compliment.
I’m thin, and I’ve been way skinnier than this even for most of my adult life. And people notice, and they issue less-than-welcome comments. And you know what? I get the fuck over it, because I am not oppressed for being skinny. I have oodles of thin privilege, and if someone puts me down, I can just walk out the door and the rest of the world will be waiting with open arms, ready to tell me “that bitch didn’t mean it, she’s just envious that she’s fat and you’re not”.
So yeah, the comments about other people’s bodies can stop. But if you expect me to shed a single tear over those poor skinny people, well I’m afraid I’ve run out of fucks to give.
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As much as possible, decline invitations to dine with people who trash talk bodies or food. Think about ways you might set boundaries with them in other areas of your life.
Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
