Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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Nerd is my Gender
What is your gender? Man, woman, boy, girl, femme, bear, whatever?
Mine is nerd. By that I mean, everything I’ve ever done that was nerdy fit me in a way that is beyond masculine or feminine. I do not feel male or female. My body doesn’t fit my gender, nor is there a body for my gender.
“Are you a girl?” Yes, well maybe, but no, wait, that’s not really it…
“Are you a boy?” No, it’s not it either, it’s just that…
“Well, what are you?” I don’t know, I’m just my nerdy self.
Gender is tied in closely with sexuality, and mine is no different. I am almost exclusively attracted to other nerds. I am a homo-nerd, nerd-queer.
Do not expect a nerd to look or act a particular way. This often leads people to confuse us with geeks and dorks. What is the difference? Nerd? Geek? or Dork?
So tell me: what is your gender?
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Do it!
If you’ve got binarism you want to take down/to see taken down publicly, http://stfubinarists.tumblr.com/submit.
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Anti-Trans Discrimination
What she said:
NCTE and The Task Force released the findings of an extensive survey on the kinds of discrimination faced by trans people in the US. It’s not good news, and anyone who is surprised that it’s not good news hasn’t been paying attention.
Said Mara Keisling, Executive Director of NCTE: “Reading these results is heartbreaking on a personal level—each of these facts and figures represents pain and hardship endured by real people, every single day. This survey is a call to the conscience of every American who believes that everyone has the right to a fair chance to work hard, to have a roof overhead, and to support a family. Equality, not discrimination, is the ideal that Americans believe in, have fought for, and need to apply here.”
You can read the Executive Summary, or the entire survey.
We need a gender-inclusive ENDA.
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Why This GQ Loves the Internet
On the internet, this genderqueer can present as genderqueer! Nobody can see my body, hear my voice, know my background unless I let them. My sex fades into the background, my gender becomes manifest.
Does anyone else delight in this too?
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Genderqueer is when you hope the coin lands on its edge.
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Do not call me cisgender. You have no right or authority to name me without my consent.
Cisgender is a word used by persons who have decided to name me without my permission.
Cisgender is not a name or identity that females, women as a class, have chosen for ourselves.
It does not come from us, as its origins are from a trans perspective, a person said to be a man, created by trans persons and used to name females/women as a class. Women have not agreed to be named by others, as has been done to us through history, being named, identified and defined by others.
You do not get to name me without my permission.
Do not call me cisgender. That is offensive to me. I am offended that you consider that you have power over me, and can name me.
Cisgender is an epithet, abusive, contemptuous and expresses hostility towards me.
I name myself. The names and words I use include female, woman, her, she, wimmin, womon, womyn. You have permission to use those words when addressing or referring to me.
You do not have the permission to call me names you have created for me, against my will and demand that I own them as mine.
Do not call me cisgender. That is your word, not mine.
Uppity Biscuit http://uppitybiscuit.wordpress.com/2007/01/19/do-not-call-me-cisgender-you-do-not-have-my-permission-to-name-me/ (via thefeministhermit)
Oh, so you’re trans*? Because you’re either cis or trans. You’re either the same gender that was assigned to you at birth or you’re not. I’m not going to tell you for you which you are, but you can’t act like one is superior to the other, or that one is degrading or the other egotistic. And you most certainly can’t act like “woman” and “cis” or “woman” and “trans” are mutually exclusive pairings. You want to see the end of cis/trans? End the practice of gender assignment at birth. Stop raising little kids to be girls and boys based on how they look. But you won’t do that, will you?
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Pretty good gender umbrella, though I would point out that not all people in some of these categories even consider themselves to be trans*.
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Anonymous asked: Do you have a penis or a vagina?
Answer: Depends on my agenda for the day.
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Trans*-on-Trans* Discrimination
Sigh… When are we going to learn that we’re not each other’s enemies? It’s the people out there who want to force us into a genital-defined social role who hate us, not each other.
transgirljournal makes a list of people she wants to inflict physical violence upon:
- The ones that complain constantly about people giving them male pronouns when they don’t even try to present semi-feme sometimes.
Weird, I know plenty of men who can throw on a cute skirt and still be called by male pronouns. Not to mention men who can avoid femininity as hard as they try and still not hear one male pronoun all day long. Presenting as femme/butch/whatever isn’t the magic button for receiving non-male pronouns, it seems.
- The ones that don’t even try.
How do you know if they’re trying? Are you living their lives? Maybe she’s leapt over 500 obstacles that week already, and she simply doesn’t have the strength for Obstacle #501.
- The ones who complain about transphobia when all their life involves is looking for transphobia.
Have you looked around you? Do you listen to what people say? The only way to avoid the constant transphobia is to plug your ears, cover your eyes, wear gloves (if your read braille), and hide in a closet. Speaking of closet, that’s where you’ll find the only trans* people who don’t complain about transphobia, because it’s too dangerous for them to. They need the rest of us to speak up against hate for them when they can’t.
- The ones who WANT transphobia and people to call them “trannies” just so they can make a scene.
Gasp! Not a scene! WE WOULDN’T WANT THAT! Then bigots who hate and abuse trans* people might get the wrong idea about how we really feel. They might even stop oppressing us, and then we wouldn’t get to make scenes any more, and that would be sad. /sarcasm
In summary: get over yourself.
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the codes of gender
Amazing video! You will be so glad you watched it.
consider this possibly the most informative 45 minutes of your life.
http://www.freespeech.org/video/codes-gender
[you’re welcome]
Submitted by conquermaps
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To All Those Brave Tran***s Out There
I just fookin’ loove ya’!
Listen, having the courage and strength to strive for what you believe in is beautiful. You people are honestly the bravest I’ve ever met. Sure, we all suffer from bullying just because we identify as gay/lesbian/bisexual/pansexual/etc. but trans-gendered people have the fucking balls to say “Fuck that shit. I just want to be a guy/girl!”. I don’t know how you guys and gals do it. The amazing top surgery pictures put a smile to my face. Reading awfully sad stories about how families reject make me cry. Everything you do is a nice big “SUCK IT!” to gender stereotypes. None of you should ever feel that you’re wrong. It’s all about making sure you are who you are. If your born in the wrong body, you deserve to alter yourself in order to define exactly who you are. If I could personally meet every single one of you when your suffering and just give you a massive hug, I would. You inspire me. You are the greatest out there. And I just wanted to spend some time appreciating you. Fuck, just…yeah.
The first time someone ever said she thought me courageous, I was confused. I’m not brave, I’m not even out at work. In fact, I held off telling my friends for years because I was afraid to face my gender. I simply came to a place where if I didn’t accept myself as being genderqueer, I’d have a breakdown: unable to function, perhaps even unable to live.
I don’t think I’m inspiring at all, really, but thanks for the support. Now do me a favor and call Congress to demand employment protection for gender identity. ;)
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We see you trollin’, we hatin’…
Jesus tapdancing christ
HOLY SHIT WHAT
don’t even have to comment on this one. it’s all right here man.
welp
oh tumblr
>self-loathing women who impersonate male supremacy
Well, I don’t believe I am self-loathing in the least.
Hell, I like myself.
AS A BOY.
Wow, it must be a hard job blocking about 95% of Tumblr-Accounts.
She should use her time better and get back to the kitchen. Those sandwiches are not going to make themseves.This is why we ALL need to follow her - the more time she spends doing her private investigation, the less time she spends being a bigot. :D
(Source: confusedtree)
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Bad Parsi Queer: Here's the problem with cookies
Okay, there’s been a lot of talk in regards to this “retrain cis people with positive reinforcement” thing about why it is not actually something trans* people need to do. But here’s another way of looking at it, and it’s fucking important.
The phrase “asking for cookies” comes up a lot in conversations like this. It’s a way of thinking of praise like a cookie, and whenever someone does anything slightly good, they ask for a cookie. Sometimes people ask for cookies even when they’ve done fuck all. (“I said that not all trans* people were fakers or mentally-ill! Where’s my cookie?”)
What this idea of positive reenforcement is asking is that trans* people give out cookies for the recognition that they are people whose rights should be respected. That if we give out enough cookies and back-pats, maybe people will start treating us like people and not like the scum they’ve scraped off the bottom of their shoes! That would be great!
Except that that is deeply fucked up. Because people shouldn’t do this for the thanks, or for the positive reenforcement, or the cookies. They should do it because they see us as people.
Click link for more…
I totally get the sentiments here, nobody should have to give out cookies. But… sometimes I like giving out cookies. I want to say “hey, you make me happy”. Every time I imagine a world where people only give out negative reinforcement and avoid giving out positive reinforcement because they shouldn’t have to, it’s so depressing. Who wants to live like that? Course, I’ll smack down anyone who goes around asking me for cookies, cuz damn it, they’re my cookies to give out. ;)
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![This is anti-trans hate, anti-queer hate, anti-woman hate… detecting a pattern here? You want to stop hate crimes and stop bullying? STOP HATE.
[Image is split-screen; on the left is Justin Bieber, on the right is Justin’s image with makeup and long hair added.]
For those of you completely out of the loop, you can educate yourself on the “Justin Bieber is really a girl” meme at your own risk here: http://www.justinbiebergirl.com/](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lgtmcs3hIW1qfhjaoo1_250.jpg)
This is anti-trans hate, anti-queer hate, anti-woman hate… detecting a pattern here? You want to stop hate crimes and stop bullying? STOP HATE.
[Image is split-screen; on the left is Justin Bieber, on the right is Justin’s image with makeup and long hair added.]
For those of you completely out of the loop, you can educate yourself on the “Justin Bieber is really a girl” meme at your own risk here: http://www.justinbiebergirl.com/
Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
