Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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Nerd is my Gender
What is your gender? Man, woman, boy, girl, femme, bear, whatever?
Mine is nerd. By that I mean, everything I’ve ever done that was nerdy fit me in a way that is beyond masculine or feminine. I do not feel male or female. My body doesn’t fit my gender, nor is there a body for my gender.
“Are you a girl?” Yes, well maybe, but no, wait, that’s not really it…
“Are you a boy?” No, it’s not it either, it’s just that…
“Well, what are you?” I don’t know, I’m just my nerdy self.
Gender is tied in closely with sexuality, and mine is no different. I am almost exclusively attracted to other nerds. I am a homo-nerd, nerd-queer.
Do not expect a nerd to look or act a particular way. This often leads people to confuse us with geeks and dorks. What is the difference? Nerd? Geek? or Dork?
So tell me: what is your gender?
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Do it!
If you’ve got binarism you want to take down/to see taken down publicly, http://stfubinarists.tumblr.com/submit.
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i saw your post on pansexualpride and i wanted to give you props :)
i'm like you, where i rarely fantasize about people just walking around, and for this i thought i was the crazy one. although i am attracted to the same sex, i still find certain features and characteristics cute or beautiful or just interesting in the opposite sex. for this, my girlfriend thinks i'm crazy, since she's a gold star lesbian and my first girlfriend. i identify as a lesbian (and just came out to my lesbian mom a couple weeks ago woooo!), but personality is personality, and if that's what attracts me, then so be it.Asked by shanikins
Cool! Thanks for sharing. :)
Reference post: http://pansexualpride.tumblr.com/post/3167008239
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I’m so tired of hairstylists trying to enforce the gender binary; I always leave salons feeling like a gender felon.
genderfork (via pansexualpride)
Wow, so it’s not just me. I’ve resorted to having friends do my hair, after getting tired of saying “yes, I’m sure I want it that short, that’s what I got last time”, only to have the stylist ask me again 5 minutes later.
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Anti-Trans Discrimination
What she said:
NCTE and The Task Force released the findings of an extensive survey on the kinds of discrimination faced by trans people in the US. It’s not good news, and anyone who is surprised that it’s not good news hasn’t been paying attention.
Said Mara Keisling, Executive Director of NCTE: “Reading these results is heartbreaking on a personal level—each of these facts and figures represents pain and hardship endured by real people, every single day. This survey is a call to the conscience of every American who believes that everyone has the right to a fair chance to work hard, to have a roof overhead, and to support a family. Equality, not discrimination, is the ideal that Americans believe in, have fought for, and need to apply here.”
You can read the Executive Summary, or the entire survey.
We need a gender-inclusive ENDA.
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You Know You’re Trans* When: #233
You fear “that conversation” when you’re dating someone who doesn’t know you’re trans, because you fear you’ll lose them because of it.
This is kind of a litmus test for who is worth my time and love and who isn’t.
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Women Subject to Objectifying Gazes Show Decreased Math Ability
Women who are looked at as sexual objects not only react as sexual objects, they also exhibit less proficiency with math, according to a new study published in the March 2011 issue of the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly.
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Variation is the norm - biology loves difference, society hates it.
My Gender Studies Professor. LOL @ using Darwin to justify non-binary gender. (via homosilica)
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Look at the low masculinity & femininity scores on this thing!
Bencakes says: so yeah, “nerd” is your gender, as in you focus on intellectually meaningful choices
(Click image above for link to full report.)
(Source: personaldna.com)
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The paradigm of “women trade sex to men for affection / favors / security / etc.” is an extremely dangerous one. Because it posits that women never really want sex, it makes the bright line of “no, this time I really don’t want it” fuzzy, as if this were merely a breakdown in the bargaining process. It makes women seem unreasonable or even greedy for refusing sex when they’ve been properly “compensated” (see also: PUA culture) and makes men feel that sex with a woman who doesn’t want sex isn’t fundamentally abnormal. And this is why being extremely public about being an extremely horny woman is fighting rape.
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Why This GQ Loves the Internet
On the internet, this genderqueer can present as genderqueer! Nobody can see my body, hear my voice, know my background unless I let them. My sex fades into the background, my gender becomes manifest.
Does anyone else delight in this too?
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Spinster Aunt bans dudes from I Blame the Patriarchy
It’s her safe space, she can do what she wants, I get it. But as a qenderqueer person, I have to wonder exactly where the line is drawn. What if a nonbinary person uses “he/him” pronouns? What if a trans* person acts too masculine, or mentions birth-assignment as being anything too male? She says people can bypass the sex restrictions by going incognito, but I lived 23 years of my life cleverly disguised as a girl, and I’m not about to be forced back into that broken mold!
Damn, that’s problematic. VERY problematic. It is her space, and as such she is entitled to make her own rules - but that doesn’t stop those rules being problematic. Right. The rule works in a binary, cis, normative world. But we don’t live in one of those. What happens to CAMAB/MAAB women? In the comments it is mentioned that ‘MTFs’ (broken terminology alert, broken terminology alert) are okay to comment, but are trans women likely to if they read on and find another commenter remarking that ‘“transwomen” are men’ with no dissent? If they mention their experiences of being thought to be a man, do they get banned? What happens to CAFAB/FAAB men? Are they allowed to comment by virtue of having been born with vaginas and if not are their experiences to be silenced? What about non-binary folks of all stripes? Are we allowed to comment at all? Does our commenting ability depend on our genitalia? And how the hell do you police whether someone is a man or not over the internet? Nothing is innately male or innately female or innately anything else.
And frankly, men, even cis, straight, normative men, do have shit to blame the patriarchy for. They’re massively privileged in many ways by it, but that doesn’t mean they have no right to blame it. We all do. Those of all assigned sexes/genders. Of all genders/non-genders. Of all genital configurations. The patriarchy screws all of us. Some more than others, but all are messed up. Yes, I too have come across men who mansplain stuff. It’s not good. And the way cis males especially are socialised, they’re always going to have to be on the lookout for a tendency to do that, since male privilege does exist and does make a massive difference. But that doesn’t justify making a snap judgement of an entire large portion of the population with boundaries that are unclear and erasive.
So yes. Cissexism. Binarism. Normativity. Identity policing. STFU & EYDS. Ban mansplainers and privilege deniers by all means, but don’t do it by banning people by gender.
Submitted by andythenerd. Thank you!
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My tactic: go with a friend, then people assume you belong.
Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
