Nerd is my Gender
What's yours?
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Anonymous asked: Do you have a penis or a vagina?
Answer: Depends on my agenda for the day.
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Passing as GQ
I think I would put more effort into looking gender neutral if I thought I could pass.
Is such a thing possible? If so, I want a makeover!
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The Atheist "Challenge"
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At what point did you know you were an atheist? Why did you become one, what were the factors leading up to the decision, if you weren’t always one?
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I wasn't always an atheist. I studied the Bible a lot. The more I did, the more I realized it was giving its God a bad reputation. After looking around, I realized that either God's a real jerk, isn't involved in human affairs, or doesn't exist. Either way, my participation is not required.
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What religion did you grow up with? Did you have positive or negative experiences with religion?
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I've had mostly positive experiences with religion personally. Apart from the bits where Christians use the Bible to claim that they're not being hateful, they're just the messengers. I'm sure they really believe that, too, sad to say. But other than that, yeah, my childhood was full of Christians who had a personal code of conduct based in love and caring.
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Are you a more outspoken or more apathetic atheist? Why?
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I'm outspoken about atheism because I'm outspoken about everything about myself.
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Do you think religion is obsolete and should be wiped completely off the face of the Earth, or does some good come out of it?
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I object to the wording of this question. Are we really going to have a cleansing? The world has enough warfare as it is. But honestly, I see a future where religion simply fades into the background as we need it less and less.
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Did you lose any friends because you decided to be an atheist? Did your family flip out?
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Probably, and yes. They believe there is a hell. An oppressive belief if there ever was one.
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How do you feel about so-called “militant atheists” such as Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, and Sam Harris?
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I laugh. And then ignore them. Wankers.
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Except for God, do you believe in anything supernatural or pseudoscientific? (Ghosts, alien abductions, spirits, souls, demons, psychics, magic, Harry Potter, etc.)
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Hey, Harry Potter is REAL! But, um, if things are real, I don't even need to believe in them, so it doesn't matter either way.
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What’s your political alignment? Does your atheism influence how you vote and how you feel on issues?
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I vote anti-evil. Read into that what you will.
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Even though you’re an atheist, have you ever experienced a moment that could be called “religious?” Like an epiphany about the world or complete peace?
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No.
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Are you spiritual, or are your feet always on the ground?
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Are those the only options? Seriously?
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Do you have/plan on having a career in the sciences? Alternatively: which branch of science intrigues you most?
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I'd love to do science, but I like having a personal life more. I really enjoy physics and psychology, and the rest is rather cool too.
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What happens when we die? Do you fear death?
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Nothing happens. Woohoo! I'm not afraid of death, though I don't like experiencing pain in any form, and I imagine dying probably hurts. Also, it would be really rude to everyone who's still alive that I owe money (though it's not like they could chase me down with torches and pitchforks into the nonexistent afterlife).
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Would you ever date/marry somebody who follows a religion? Be honest.
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Probably. As long as they don't believe that hell exists.
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On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you with life at this moment, and why?
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RIGHT now, I'm a little hungry, but I just finished my schoolwork for the week, and I get to go hang out with Bencakes' family, so that's cool. This also sums up my feelings about the rest of my life, coincidently.
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Recommend a book. :) (Doesn’t have to be relevant to atheism, just any good book.)
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The Gods Themselves, by Isaac Asimov. This actually has nothing to do with religion or atheism (contrary to what the book title sounds like). The second of three sections in the book is deeply touching to my life. It's all about an alternate universe where there is a race of beings which have three sexes (all three required for reproduction). The main character is physically in the form of the "emotional" sex, but she feels like she should actually be of the "rational" gender. Her struggle of coming to terms with her transgender identity really resonates with my personal struggle.
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Trans*-on-Trans* Discrimination
Sigh… When are we going to learn that we’re not each other’s enemies? It’s the people out there who want to force us into a genital-defined social role who hate us, not each other.
transgirljournal makes a list of people she wants to inflict physical violence upon:
- The ones that complain constantly about people giving them male pronouns when they don’t even try to present semi-feme sometimes.
Weird, I know plenty of men who can throw on a cute skirt and still be called by male pronouns. Not to mention men who can avoid femininity as hard as they try and still not hear one male pronoun all day long. Presenting as femme/butch/whatever isn’t the magic button for receiving non-male pronouns, it seems.
- The ones that don’t even try.
How do you know if they’re trying? Are you living their lives? Maybe she’s leapt over 500 obstacles that week already, and she simply doesn’t have the strength for Obstacle #501.
- The ones who complain about transphobia when all their life involves is looking for transphobia.
Have you looked around you? Do you listen to what people say? The only way to avoid the constant transphobia is to plug your ears, cover your eyes, wear gloves (if your read braille), and hide in a closet. Speaking of closet, that’s where you’ll find the only trans* people who don’t complain about transphobia, because it’s too dangerous for them to. They need the rest of us to speak up against hate for them when they can’t.
- The ones who WANT transphobia and people to call them “trannies” just so they can make a scene.
Gasp! Not a scene! WE WOULDN’T WANT THAT! Then bigots who hate and abuse trans* people might get the wrong idea about how we really feel. They might even stop oppressing us, and then we wouldn’t get to make scenes any more, and that would be sad. /sarcasm
In summary: get over yourself.
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I tried to be a boy
I tried to be a girl
I tried to be a mess
I tried to be the best
I guess I did it wrong -
Pat is my hero!
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Aww, they’re so cute! And they’re making it better. Awesomeness.
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What is feminism according to you?
If Feminism is for equal rights, then why call yourself feminist? Be a humanist. Don't just care for your group's rights, care for everyone's rights.Asked by anticapitalist
DEAR GOD WON’T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE HUMANISTS!
…oh wait, I am a humanist. And though I’m a feminist, I’m not a woman, so it’s not “my group”.
Educate your damn self.
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For non-binary folks, every little action is used to prove that we’re actually binary – because everything is gendered one way or another, in our highly binary society. And they expect us to provide them with a perfect blend of gendered traits, or they say, no, you’re actually binary and you’re in denial, LOOK, you did THIS, that’s so BINARY.
JKBC of Anger is Justified in a post about cissexist gender policing.
The sad thing is, that second part? I do it to myself, kind of. I look at how I’m dressed for the day, how I’m walking and sitting and standing, the patterns of my behaviors over the previous few days — and wonder whether if it’s too masculine? Too feminine*? Too whatever??
The even sadder thing is, I’m not even officially out in meatspace. And although I am personally fond of a certain element of androgyny that can and does throw binarist people off, as soon as they hear my voice or see my legal name, that reprieve is over.
*Femininity being marked creates a whole other set of issues.
(via anlamasanda)
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Yes, yes, what everyone has said, yes!
It’s true, I’ll never have a perfect blend. I can’t, I live in a binary world full of binary filters over our eyes. On top of that, I act as a binary at my workplace, so I’m occasionally forgetting where I am and what’s expected of me. Sometimes I catch myself in “work mode” at home. Even worse, so do my friends, and they point that out in “gotcha” mode, or else complain about how I’m too confusing and it’s too much of a burden for them to keep up.
Try living half your life in the closet and the other half as a freak and see how easy it is to maintain perfection.
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To All Those Brave Tran***s Out There
I just fookin’ loove ya’!
Listen, having the courage and strength to strive for what you believe in is beautiful. You people are honestly the bravest I’ve ever met. Sure, we all suffer from bullying just because we identify as gay/lesbian/bisexual/pansexual/etc. but trans-gendered people have the fucking balls to say “Fuck that shit. I just want to be a guy/girl!”. I don’t know how you guys and gals do it. The amazing top surgery pictures put a smile to my face. Reading awfully sad stories about how families reject make me cry. Everything you do is a nice big “SUCK IT!” to gender stereotypes. None of you should ever feel that you’re wrong. It’s all about making sure you are who you are. If your born in the wrong body, you deserve to alter yourself in order to define exactly who you are. If I could personally meet every single one of you when your suffering and just give you a massive hug, I would. You inspire me. You are the greatest out there. And I just wanted to spend some time appreciating you. Fuck, just…yeah.
The first time someone ever said she thought me courageous, I was confused. I’m not brave, I’m not even out at work. In fact, I held off telling my friends for years because I was afraid to face my gender. I simply came to a place where if I didn’t accept myself as being genderqueer, I’d have a breakdown: unable to function, perhaps even unable to live.
I don’t think I’m inspiring at all, really, but thanks for the support. Now do me a favor and call Congress to demand employment protection for gender identity. ;)
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Trans* Pun
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Andy (me):
I can't get out of this binder.
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Ben:
It's a boobie trap!
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Andy (me):
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We see you trollin’, we hatin’…
Jesus tapdancing christ
HOLY SHIT WHAT
don’t even have to comment on this one. it’s all right here man.
welp
oh tumblr
>self-loathing women who impersonate male supremacy
Well, I don’t believe I am self-loathing in the least.
Hell, I like myself.
AS A BOY.
Wow, it must be a hard job blocking about 95% of Tumblr-Accounts.
She should use her time better and get back to the kitchen. Those sandwiches are not going to make themseves.This is why we ALL need to follow her - the more time she spends doing her private investigation, the less time she spends being a bigot. :D
(Source: confusedtree)
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how to change your behavior and pronoun usage
Binary peeps, it’s not just you - some pronouns get me tongue-tied too! It’s okay if you take a tumble while you try. The important thing is that you keep on trying.
hopefully you are sensitive to the needs of your genderqueer, trans*, and non-binary friends in regards to pronoun usage, but i get it…we all fuck up sometimes, no matter how careful we are. in reality, we all need some training (or untraining) to help us get past all the shit we were lied about in regards to gender being binary.
what it comes down to? a bit of practice and help from yr friends.
Click link for more…
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Bad Parsi Queer: Here's the problem with cookies
Okay, there’s been a lot of talk in regards to this “retrain cis people with positive reinforcement” thing about why it is not actually something trans* people need to do. But here’s another way of looking at it, and it’s fucking important.
The phrase “asking for cookies” comes up a lot in conversations like this. It’s a way of thinking of praise like a cookie, and whenever someone does anything slightly good, they ask for a cookie. Sometimes people ask for cookies even when they’ve done fuck all. (“I said that not all trans* people were fakers or mentally-ill! Where’s my cookie?”)
What this idea of positive reenforcement is asking is that trans* people give out cookies for the recognition that they are people whose rights should be respected. That if we give out enough cookies and back-pats, maybe people will start treating us like people and not like the scum they’ve scraped off the bottom of their shoes! That would be great!
Except that that is deeply fucked up. Because people shouldn’t do this for the thanks, or for the positive reenforcement, or the cookies. They should do it because they see us as people.
Click link for more…
I totally get the sentiments here, nobody should have to give out cookies. But… sometimes I like giving out cookies. I want to say “hey, you make me happy”. Every time I imagine a world where people only give out negative reinforcement and avoid giving out positive reinforcement because they shouldn’t have to, it’s so depressing. Who wants to live like that? Course, I’ll smack down anyone who goes around asking me for cookies, cuz damn it, they’re my cookies to give out. ;)
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T-Friendly Bathroom Initiative in Chicago
GenderQueer Chicago has launched an initiative to have friendly Chicago businesses identify themselves to trans customers. Talk about turning the bathroom meme on its head. It’s positive, it’s proactive, it puts the lie to the bathroom meme…I think I like this idea! What say you, transfolk?
CHICAGO- In an unprecedented effort to make the city of Chicago safer for transgender individuals, local youth organizers have launched the “T-Friendly Bathroom Initiative,” a grassroots community project that challenges business owners to protect gender identity in their public restrooms.
In 2011, more than 500 businesses and organizations will be asked to sign a pledge that commits them to allowing gender-variant customers to use the bathroom of their choice. Businesses that sign the pledge will be awarded a window decal, so that gender-variant people can easily identify trans-friendly businesses.
“We expect this will dramatically improve the way transgender people experience our city and state” said Kate Sosin, Co-Founder of Genderqueer Chicago and a project organizer. “We want business owners to understand that under the Illinois Human Rights Act, it is not just their right to protect transgender people in bathrooms, it is their duty.”
Gender identity and expression is protected under the Illinois Human Rights Act, but everyday, countless transgender people are harassed in public restrooms for not “passing” as male or female. This policing often results in violence against gender-variant people. It can also mean health complications for those who are not allowed regular access to bathrooms.
“This project is a critical reminder that trans folk can empower themselves to achieve something positive,” said fellow organizer, Christina Kahrl of Equality Illinois. “What we’re getting to do here is change the dynamic, so that we don’t just limit ourselves to protesting against those businesses and organizations who wrong trans folk.”
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Go Chicago! Maybe next we can get St Louis to step up to the plate?
Genderqueer with a touch of happy humanism.
