My boyfriend tells me he thinks that in some cases, rape victims are partially to blame for their rapes; for example if they didn’t take “enough” precautionary measures. I tell him how upsetting it is for me to hear this, because it means if I were ever to get raped, I’ll know he thinks I’m partially to blame for it, because I “wasn’t careful enough.”
He then gets mad at me for making him feel guilty for sharing his opinion, telling me that if this is how I’m going to act every time he expresses his thoughts, he won’t want to open up to me.
But guess what happens when women take note of his sort of attitude and adopt a Schrodinger’s Rapist mentality? They’re to blame in that situation too!