Nerd is my Gender

“Those people are trying to intimidate and scare you. If you act scared, you are feeding into their fear tactics and giving them what they want. DON’T GIVE THEM THAT POWER. They are bullies. THEY are the ones who are scared. They are so scared, they’re telling lies and showing pictures of dead babies. An abortion does NOT look like that. They don’t even understand what they are talking about. Planned Parenthood is about affordable healthcare for men and women, not dead babies. They are trying to SAVE lives and help people. The protester’s anger is their fear in disguise. They don’t know any better. We need to show compassion to them. We need to REPLACE THE FEAR WITH LOVE. So when we walk out of here, you need to look them in the eye with love on your mind and smile. Remember, YOU are in charge of your feelings. Can you do that?”

one woman’s story…

St Louis woman’s encouragement to her daughter at a local anti-Planned Parenthood rally.

This is my every day:

fuckyeahdisingenuousliberal:

Full disclosure, I am white, and I am doomed to fuck up, and part of actually being an ally is accepting that you are gonna fuck up, and when people call you out, you have to apologize and try and not fuck up again. Learn from your actions, you know?

But a lot of the people I talk to about their fuck ups are often friends of mine, so I have to go about it gently. Otherwise they are often lovely people, so I have to take their delicate fee fees [feelings] into concern, and pet them and lovingly cuddle them into realizing WOW THAT IS FUCKED UP. Thankfully, a lot of them have left that phase but a ton of them are still stuck in, “But I’m an Ally!!” phase. Aka “I’m such a wonderful and amazing Ally how could I possibly have fucked up and to prove I didn’t I will fight you every step of the way” phase.

I put that last disclaimer on that last ask because…

newwavefeminism:

Not everyone wants to use their blog to educate the whole world, nor should they be obligated to. This isn’t my personal blog. This blog is a side project that started as a project for a women’s studies class and became something more. I enjoy answering questions and being a resource - because this isn’t my personal blog.

A lot of the people I reblog from - that IS their personal blog. They are not here to educate, be politically correct, identify as “social justice”, or feel any obligation to anyone but them and the people who understand them.

Yeah, I was on here for a whole year before I figured out what “social justice” means (at least, I think… I still haven’t looked it up) when someone accused me of being a social justice blogger. If I had to summarize my personal philosophy, it’d be “let’s try to make the sum total of crap in the world a bit lower, mmmkay?” I’m happy to help give people a nudge in the direction of finding information, but I’m certainly no expert at anything other than being me.

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Sex-Positive vs Trans* Equality

There is no “vs”.

I’ll re-emphasize:

THERE IS NO COMPETITION.

I don’t know where this epic battle originated nor why it’s perpetuated to the levels we’re seeing online (mostly targeted at Laci Green and at the so-called “Tumblr SJ Community”), but it has its roots in bullshit.

That’s right:

BULLSHIT.

Tonight I’m going camping with some awesome trans* peeps. We need body autonomy, we need positive sexuality, we need acceptance, we need the support of sex-positive community.

Tomorrow I’m going SlutWalking with some awesome sexpoz peeps. We need body autonomy, we need positive sexuality, we need acceptance, we need the support of the transgender community.

And you know what? Maybe some of us has let the others down on both sides. But we’re trying. We’re looking forward. We’re coming together tomorrow night for a Transgender Panel at SlutWalk (I’m going to see many of the same people at both events). There is respect, there is concern, and there is hopefully increased understanding and compassion for each other.

So when I see all this SELFISH FOOLISH BICKERING all over my Tumblr and my internets, I am hurt. I am drained of my optimism and hope. Yes, things may need to be said, and people may need to learn lessons. But when it fucking goes to 11 and stays that way for as long as this has, it’s time to get a fucking grip and either BECOME THE SOLUTION OR SIT THE FUCK DOWN AND SHUT THE FUCK UP.

We believe in being compassionate. That means we believe it is important to have empathy for other people (men, women, white people, black people, rich people, poor people, and anyone suffering illness or misfortune or unfair treatment, and so on) and to act in the best interests of human happiness (rather than in the interests of our own vanity, greed, or self-righteousness, for example).

And this is where the biggest divide exists in our movement today. Everyone who attacks feminism, or promotes or defends racism or sexism, or denigrates or maliciously undermines any effort to look after the rights and welfare and happiness of others, is simply not one of us. They have rejected compassion as a fundamental value. Regardless of what they say, that is in actual fact what they have done.

Indeed, “I don’t like you, so I am going to make you personally miserable” is their value system, rather than “I don’t like you, so I am going to have nothing to do with you” or “I don’t like something you said or did, so I will still respect you as a person and look after your basic welfare, but I am also going to explain in a logical and empirical way why I think you are wrong, and what I say might be harsh, but I will take the greatest care to ensure it is, to the best of my knowledge, relevant and true. But I’ll hear you out if you think I’m wrong about that.” No, that would be reasonable, and reasonably compassionate, behavior. Which these atheists know not of.

And so I am declaring here and now, that anyone who acts like this, is not one of us, and is to be marginalized and kicked out, as not part of our movement, and not anyone we any longer wish to deal with. In fact it is especially important on this point that we prove that these vile pissants are a minority in our movement, by making sure our condemnation of them is vocalized and our numbers seen. We must downvote their bullshit, call it out in comments, blog our outrage.

Richard Carrier: The New Atheism +

little girl doing wheelie on big wheel

LIKE A BOSS.

“If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”

J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.
How do you define “inferiors” and “superiors?
How do you treat your “inferiors”?
How do your “superiors” treat you?

I see people adding their scores up and sharing them with others, and I want to say with the utmost respect:
WAT R U DOIN? STAHP!
Privilege is NOT something you can quantify for a game. These scales are intended to dehumanize the people they’re referring to and trivialize the people who actually care about social activism.
You want to learn about privilege? Sit down and have a conversation with someone whom society tells you to look down upon. Don’t offer advice - just listen. Contemplate how your daily words and actions impact that person’s life for better or for worse. Then do it again, and again, and again, until your last breath.

I see people adding their scores up and sharing them with others, and I want to say with the utmost respect:

WAT R U DOIN? STAHP!

Privilege is NOT something you can quantify for a game. These scales are intended to dehumanize the people they’re referring to and trivialize the people who actually care about social activism.

You want to learn about privilege? Sit down and have a conversation with someone whom society tells you to look down upon. Don’t offer advice - just listen. Contemplate how your daily words and actions impact that person’s life for better or for worse. Then do it again, and again, and again, until your last breath.

“Why did lightning strike my house? Demons, obviously.
The crops failed? It was witches.
Black people live in comparatively greater poverty than whites? It’s because they’re lazy and lack personal responsibility.”
Why are you hitting yourself? Part 2: Sticking up for the big guy | The Crommunist Manifesto
“What if I did choose to be a trans woman? What if I refused to play along with social demands that I justify this, and the only explanations I offered was that this makes me feel happier, more secure and confident, more comfortable with how I dress and present myself and more comfortable in my body, and that it makes sex more pleasurable and fun for me? Is that not reason enough? And who the fuck are cis people to say it isn’t, and that I need to provide a better explanation?”
Born This Way (Reprise): The New Essentialism » Sincerely, Natalie Reed
“If atheism is not a social justice movement then atheists need to shut the fuck up with calling out human rights atrocities on the part of the religious.”

Onamission5 - Why I’m nearly ready to quit the atheist movement