What I’ve learned:
If you don’t ask for help, it’s your fault. If you are afraid to ask for help, you are a coward. If you cannot ask for help, you should have just found a way. If you do ask for help, you should have done it earlier or never gotten yourself in that situation to begin with. If you stay with him you’re hurting the children, but you should really wait for that divorce until they graduate so they don’t have to go through that. If you don’t talk to strangers, you’re a rude and frigid bitch. If you do talk to strangers “you’re asking for it” because you led them on. If you walk alone you’re asking for it. If you are afraid to walk alone you’re overreacting and you hate all men. If you get assaulted you should have protected yourself. If you learn to protect yourself that is “cute” or “adorable” and you “fight like a girl.” If you are attacked by a stranger you should have been more careful and had someone you trust with you. If you are hurt by someone you trust you should have known all along and never trusted them. You should “just say no,” but if you reject someone you are a bitch. If you wear the wrong clothes you’re asking for it. They are always the wrong clothes. If you drink you’re asking for it. If he does things to you while he’s drunk it isn’t his fault because he couldn’t control himself, he was “just drunk.” If you never have sex you’re a prude, but if you have sex too quickly or too often you are a slut.
If you complain about any of this, you are a feminazi.